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I Had Cancer Guidelines

We're all here for similar reasons - we've been touched by cancer in some way. It’s up to all of us to show each other that no one is alone. Your IHadCancer profile is your own place to call home during this crazy thing called cancer, we just ask that you keep these simple guidelines in mind when participating.

1. Always Be Nice. This is a place for connections and conversations – we encourage you all to talk openly but please remain considerate in all of your engagement. Don’t post obscene, hateful or objectionable content. Abuse and disrespect will not be tolerated in the IHC community and is subject to deletion and user removal at our discretion.

2. Be a Good Friend. The IHC community is a family. Please remember to be a good friend to the connections you make on IHC. Ask questions that you wish someone would ask you; if you can’t find the right words to say, send a hug, it can speak louder than words. A simple gesture goes a long way.

3. Don't Spam. This includes sending unsolicited messages of any nature, posting links to unrelated content, promoting a survey, fundraiser or product where it shouldn’t be promoted. If you aren’t sure if something is appropriate to post, e-mail us and we’ll let you know.

4. Think Before You Post. Everything you post on IHadCancer is secure, but it is up to you to monitor how much or how little information you are sharing about yourself and your experience. Please don’t share personal or identifiable information like your mailing address or your full name and don’t share other member’s information.

5. If You See Something, Say Something. We work hard to make sure these guidelines are followed closely but if you see something that doesn’t’ feel right to you, please let us know. We review every report we receive and will take anything you say to heart. We promise.

6. Be Open. Welcome newcomers and help guide them through this journey based on your own experience. Whether you are a survivor, fighter, caregiver or supporter, you have valuable information that can very well help someone else who is just beginning the cancer journey. Be open to sharing experiences and give someone else the gift of your time.

Thanks for being a part of our community. It’s up to all of us to ensure that IHadCancer remains a place for us all to call home when dealing with the ups and downs of a cancer diagnosis.

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Survivor: Ovarian Cancer

I know I already posted a dear cancer a while ago. I was in such a different place then. I remember feeling like I could take over the world. Well cancer you found a new way to hurt me. You went after my heart. You found a way to break my heart. You took over my world. You consumed every drop of love you could and what you left was the little bit that's left that never truly goes away. What you did to my best friend and lover was unforgivable. You took what faith he had in us and me and you tried to break it.Now I know I have free will to do and say anything I want but what good is free will when you cant control feeling helpless, insecure, scared, jealous, sick, tired, lonely? Need I continue? And that's before 9am!! You made me seem crazy and emotional. You turned me into this obsessive lunatic. I'm afraid you and I will scare off the love of our life. I cant continue giving up my self to you. I don't know much but I do know I cant let you break my heart again. I saw what life would be without you. And I have to say it was glorious! It was romantic and sweet. It was damn near perfect. Now there is a hole in places where there shouldn't be. Everyone thinks I have a choice to be different. You took my choice and crushed it beyond repair. Good thing that love you tried to break is stronger than any cancer. Good thing I have an incredible man that with all his faults knows who I am without you and while we are both finding our own way to deal I know that when I lay down at night I win because in the morning I get another shot at life and love.

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