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I Had Cancer Guidelines

We're all here for similar reasons - we've been touched by cancer in some way. It’s up to all of us to show each other that no one is alone. Your IHadCancer profile is your own place to call home during this crazy thing called cancer, we just ask that you keep these simple guidelines in mind when participating.

1. Always Be Nice. This is a place for connections and conversations – we encourage you all to talk openly but please remain considerate in all of your engagement. Don’t post obscene, hateful or objectionable content. Abuse and disrespect will not be tolerated in the IHC community and is subject to deletion and user removal at our discretion.

2. Be a Good Friend. The IHC community is a family. Please remember to be a good friend to the connections you make on IHC. Ask questions that you wish someone would ask you; if you can’t find the right words to say, send a hug, it can speak louder than words. A simple gesture goes a long way.

3. Don't Spam. This includes sending unsolicited messages of any nature, posting links to unrelated content, promoting a survey, fundraiser or product where it shouldn’t be promoted. If you aren’t sure if something is appropriate to post, e-mail us and we’ll let you know.

4. Think Before You Post. Everything you post on IHadCancer is secure, but it is up to you to monitor how much or how little information you are sharing about yourself and your experience. Please don’t share personal or identifiable information like your mailing address or your full name and don’t share other member’s information.

5. If You See Something, Say Something. We work hard to make sure these guidelines are followed closely but if you see something that doesn’t’ feel right to you, please let us know. We review every report we receive and will take anything you say to heart. We promise.

6. Be Open. Welcome newcomers and help guide them through this journey based on your own experience. Whether you are a survivor, fighter, caregiver or supporter, you have valuable information that can very well help someone else who is just beginning the cancer journey. Be open to sharing experiences and give someone else the gift of your time.

Thanks for being a part of our community. It’s up to all of us to ensure that IHadCancer remains a place for us all to call home when dealing with the ups and downs of a cancer diagnosis.

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Survivor: Breast Cancer

I hate what you have done to me and my family. I hate that my husband passed away 5 years ago and now my 9 year old son has to watch what you have done and are doing to me and will always be affected by you! I hate the horrific side effects of the Chemotherapy drugs and the surgery that have and will forever affect my life to save it! I hate that I wasn't fully informed by health care workers EVERYTHING about treatments, surgeries, side effects and pain! I hate that I feel lost, confused, overwhelmed and afraid and can't "REALLY" allow my loved ones to see the emotional and physical pain...for fear that you will overtake their lives more than you already have destroyed them. I hate that people think ChemoBrain either isn't real or that I use it as an excuse for everything! I hate the constant overwhelming and anxiety ridden feelings that keep me from attempting to live any normal life! I hate that just when I thought my life couldn't get any worse, you showed up! I hate that 5 years after loosing my husband I had just started to accept it and attempted to "relearn" to live life as an independent, single mother when YOU destroyed any chance at that. I hate that I have to ask for so much help from everyone but don't want to burden them. I hate that my son helps take care of me like I am the child and he is the adult, especially after everything he has already been through at such a young age! I hate that I am in an "in between" stage...passed the hard chemo, mastectomy with lymph node dissection and radiation but still getting Herceptin, have developed Lymphedema and have barely thought about reconstruction...I hate that this journey seems like it will never end! Most of all, I hate that I hate because after everything that I have been through in my life, I have never hated anything-until you...

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